The rhetoric we are using to talk about this is the same we have been using to talk about a death. It is heavy with the pathos of grief and despair. Grief is the internal processing of a loss, the thoughts and emotional responses of the brain and body. Mourning is what you do in your life to adapt to, and cope with, being subjected to loss. Grief is involuntary as an effect on your person. Mourning is direct action, and becomes its own cause.
The rhetoric we are using to talk about the majority choice is the same we have been using to talk about a death. The loss of a person calls for the act of honoring through a vigil or a memorial. The loss of an optional direction calls for the act of restructuring your expectations. One is measured by retrospect, the other by the future.
The rhetoric we are using to divide our union is the same we have been using to talk about a death. We are greeting each other with embraces and bracing each other for the questions of, "What next?" and "What now?" but first all communications start with, "How are you doing?" Speechless and helpless are customary responses.
The rhetoric we are using to understand two halves of our people is the same we have been using to talk about a death. Shock is overruling acceptance, resistance is overruling shock. Empathy is to understand, and so in groups we seek an empathy to explain to us the cause and effect of our union. In groups we seek the empathy of a common future tense.